I say this line sometimes from a story I write in my head.

I say it loud and confident in my best southern accent:

“Daylene! Get in here. Daddy needs a sponge bath.”

I imagine Daylene lives in a trailer home in the South, with her Momma and her Daddy. Daylene is small, blond, rail thin and sweet. She is fierce when it comes to scrubbing Daddy during the sponge bath. If she hurts him he’ll want it over faster, so she scrubs real hard with her tiny pink hands, which are so thin you can almost see right into her veins, all blue and tangly running up her arms.

Daylene’s Momma sometimes cracks her on the head or the behind with a cast iron skillet. She’ll yell “Daylene, get in here before I make you get the skillet so I can crack you on the head with it.”

Daylene has a secret though. She’s getting strong. Early in the morning and late at night when everyone is asleep or no one is home, she’s been lifting the cast iron skillet, over and over, high over her head and then back down to the ground again. Daylene knows that one day when she is strong enough, she will either leave this place forever and not look back, or she will have the nerve to smack them both over the head with that skillet and kill them.

That’s Daylene. Maybe one day she’ll make it into a story or two. Until then Daylene lives in my mind.

Daylene! Get in here!

Never and Ever

2826443735_6dc0cd1cdf_bHere are a few things I have said over the years:

I will never wear heels.

If I ever become the person who gets up and goes to the gym first thing in the morning – shoot me.

I will never eat sushi.

I will never ever ever….and then something happens and I’m wearing heels, eating sushi and going to the gym at 6am. Not wearing heels, or eating sushi AT the gym, but you get it.

What do I say now? – even if I say I will never – it doesn’t mean a damn thing.

Here are some other things that I’ve also said:

I will do a photo shoot in Paris.

I will work for myself one day.

I will write a book.

Two of those three are now TRUE.

Things change. We change. Life evolves.

You can always start over, you can always change, you can always believe in something instead of saying never. Saying never – never ever helps.

I am who I am at this very moment and that is that. There are some basic beliefs I have that stay true, but sometimes we learn and sometimes what we learn changes who we are and what we think and what version of NEVER we know.

I can use my willPOWER for things I want to be true.

Change is inevitable. Suffering is optional. GO!


Every morning I wake up and pinch myself. I think – why – oh – why didn’t I do this before? Why – oh – why didn’t I start my own business before?

The answer – I wasn’t ready for it and neither was my life.

It’s that simple. Trusting that I’m doing the right things at the right time is always a challenge, but things always happen when they are at the right moment to happen.

I wish

I want

I do

All things in good time. Wishing and wanting are good, but believing in those things is not the only thing.

Do something. Keep wanting, dreaming, believing, but action is everything. Live your life like the story you want it to be – as if – you are already in the new story. Live your life – as if – the story is yours to write. You are writing the next word on the page – what is it going to be?

Had I not had the life-experiences and job-experiences I had in the moments that I had them – I would not be doing what I’m doing now. End of story. LIVE. Everything in your life has brought you to this very moment. It’s yours.